Wednesday, March 4, 2009

February Books

A Short Guide to a Happy Life by Ann Quindlen

A Heart Like His by Virginia Pearce.

10 comments:

bookclubmember said...

I liked Short Guide to a Happy Life for it's simplicity. I wish I knew how to put the ideas into practice. That is the hard part for me!

I haven't finished A Heart like his but I like it more this time because I can see I need it. I hide behind insecurity and shyness and close my heart! This book helped me realize this. I guess I have work to do!

My kids are 6, 5 and 3 and although things are easier, sometimes I am amazed at how busy they still keep me. They are all good kids, active and as curious as is healthy, and more untidy and dirty! My daughter allows mess and untidiness wherever she walks. My mom and I sometimes joke about her being pigpen. She has no problem getting in the dirt. I am finally growing accostomed to having a child gone at school all day but I know I will be sad to send another next year. It's too long! If I were cooler I would consider homeschool, but I think since I can barely remember to get their book-in-a bag back every night I better not! They do have a great school too.

I need a good new book so whoever chooses this time know I am anxious and ready (and I hope my library has one!

Lindsay
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thecapedhappyender said...

This is ShaLisa figuring things out.

thecapedhappyender said...

Mycomment worked and I thought I did the same thing last time. So here is my review of the books.

A Short Guide to a Happy Life. This book is sweet and although the message simple, it is one that once mastered will change your life. Your life will be a happy one. I wanted to say that this message reminded me a lot of Amie who has the saying, "If you want to be happy, be." And she (Amie, I mean - it is hard to know who I am directing my remarks to) is so good at living it! I think of a story she told shortly after having her first baby. She said that having a baby seemed to have messed with her hormones some (how true a statement for all new mothers) and she found herself crying at unusual things (Amie will have to retell this story in her words, she says it best). One day, Amie cried because Brion had loaded the dishwasher incorrectly. Her recount of this incident was sweet, humorous, and endearing. She laughed at herself. Brion adored her. She found it funny that she had cried and the incident seemed to be one more funny thing for her to add to her list of life's funny things. The books message is said so well by Amie, "if you want to be happy, be."

Also, I liked many of the photographs in this book. They were tender - especially the child on the swing. I was reading Gilead at the time and the author talked about a child defying gravity as they discovered the swing and it made me want to help (let) my children embrace childhood as only a child can.

A Heart Like His. I must admit I am still not quite finished with this book. So far this book has been effective in helping me understand how much changing my heart could use but I have yet to read the solution. I suppose the solution is in my knowing and changing, but that is not so simple, otherwise I would be almost perfect. I know what I should do and be, but I struggle in the doing what I know. Life somehow discourages and weighs on, I think I will say, mothers here since motherhood seems to be my constant demand and heartwrenching, patience trying, overwhelming force these days. If nothing else, the book has helped me understand, probably again, that by my closing my heart I am not able to lift or build anyone around me. And that seems an awful waste. (Is there a spell check I can use here?) I could detail my struggles, the one where the perfect me as decided or described by the world doesn't always match the me the Lord would have me be, but I think it would turn into an essay and I would hate to bore my readers (who are only my readers because they are my friends) so I suffice to say that I have a lot of work to do and I might comment again once I have actually finished the book.

I love a good book.

BALL said...

Hi All, One of the reasons I love a short guide to a happy life is that it is short. Its one of those books that is easy to look at and a quick uplift too. One thing I love that the author says in the book that stuck with me is "I show up, I listen I try to laugh" This is something that sticks with me when I refer to this one. I also like the pictures. In some ways this book reminds me of that "song" sunscreen from the year we graduated? Not sure on the timeframe of that but if I can figure out how to put a song on here I might just add it for old times sake and then remove it shortly thereafter.

A heart like his, definitely one to ponder. I concur with ShaLisa and Lindsay on this one motherhood is challenging and pushes me to limits and tests me to no end. The ideas in this book if put into practice I believe would enrich the soul. I'm working on having a more open heart myself. Good ideas and one of those books I like to write in.....

Lindsay said...

ShaLisa has some very well put and right on comments about Amie! I remember her saying her senior year that you should happen to life rather than wait for life to happen to you. I have never forgotten it, if I haven't lived it! Amie is a great example to me of optimism and making things happen. I never tire of being around her for these reasons, or thinking of her for that matter. She adds charm and grace to everything she touches!

Thank you for bringing up the phrase, "I show up, I listen, I try to laugh." I liked this and had forgotten it. I hope I will remember now!

Lindsay said...

Add music! That would be fun!

Anonymous said...

Finally, I get a chance to write. I have been reading everything, but haven't had a chance to sit down.

So, the Short Guide to a Happy Life was simple and short and to the point. It was a good reminder to put life in perspective, though I have to admit, I didn't think much more about it after I finished it....

I did really enjoy A Heart like His. And, I don't know about all of you, but I think we should try the experiment. I have to admit that when I start getting angry or snap at someone (usually a family member) or if a bad thought about someone comes to mind, this book and the "experiment" pop into my head and I am forced to change my attitude. Little by little it does help. I haven't had anything dramatic happen but I am able to stay happier longer. I think that what I liked most about the book is that she showed what a dramatic influence just a change in perspective can do. She kept emphasizing that the experiment wasn't supposed to ADD anything to your already busy lives, it was just a change in how you approached things. Anyway, this book I have thought about numerous times since I finished it, and it has helped me improve my life, as little as that improvement may be!

Good choice, Amie. And, yes, I think these books were both perfect choices for Amie. I thought of her and her example many times as I was reading.

Oh, and if any of you do want to try the experiment and share any experiences, I would be willing to extend comments for the book for a while... Just a thought.

thecapedhappyender said...

YES! I want to try the experiment. I think I can grow from sharing it with others and I can learn from you. So, yes, count me in. I think it is a fine suggestion. I do want a heart more like His.

thecapedhappyender said...

Side note: doesn't my baby look sassy in my tiny profile picture? To me the picture portrays her personality so much - she is so in charge! The little monster. I looked and looked and I don't have a single photo of myself (not since digital camera days). Oh well, I would probably delete them anyway.

And Lindsay,you gave me the title Caped Happy Ender and it has become me as I use it for everything now. Thank you. Amie, I remember you are Angel on Wheels (roller blades, if I am correct). So great! And tell me how you chose BALL, I have oftened wondered. I think Gingerbrid is very becoming and appropriate for you, Lindsay. I love it! Does Alisha or anybody else have a title I can likewise adore?

Appreciating thoughtful cleverness,
ShaLisa

Lindsay said...

Gary called me Gingerbird when he was on his mission, I guess in England redheads are ginger, birds are girls. Before we were married I went to a mission reunion with him and a few people recognized me as the gingerbird. Gary's mom made a wedding photo album with a handstitched ginger colored bird on the front. So sweet!